13 Things Mentally Tough People AVOID (Not Including Hail. True Story.)

First off – I told you yesterday that I had an interview lined
up with Mike Gillette and we were going to cover some
deep stuff.

Well the interview went great – but I don’t have it ready –

Here’s why:


We just had a MASSIVE hail storm here in the mountains –

What seemed like near-Biblical proportions – 6 to 8 inches of
mothball-sized hail fell in a matter of what seemed like minutes.

I had to go rescue my wife and kids who were stuck out in
the Home Depot parking lot where my wife tried to take shelter.

It wouldn’t have been so bad except her ice scraper broke,
and she lost the driver’s side wiper assembly, so she couldn’t
see out her windshield.

Here’s a couple of pics –


Pretty crazy right?

It’s the beginning of May for Pete’s sake!

So, I kicked into “rescue mode” and jumped into the Ol’
4Runner, slammed it into 4WD, and ploughed my way through
the hail, the flooded roads, and virtually dead stopped traffic.

It’s “funny” what happens to you when you perceive a
heightened danger level to those you love…

At one point, I slammed the truck into the right hand turning
lane, which had about 8 inches of hail covering it over.

It was fun just ploughing through all that muck, turning into the
parking lot, and having to make the decision to go over
the curb and the grassy divider or try and stay to the roads.

I wonder how I would’ve responded if their lives had been in
REAL danger…

As with all men, I’d like to think that I’m pre-programmed to
dash to their aide.

Which reminds me – back to the purpose of this email –

Mental Toughness.

Here’s an article originally written by Cheryl Conner over at
forbes dot com on the 13 things Mentally Tough people avoid.

Can you guess what’s on this list?

Better question for you:

How many of these things are you currently indulging?

I personally think #’s 2,3,4,10, and 13 are the most common
mistakes I’ve seen clients make who are struggling with fat loss.

Do you agree?

Here’s the list: 

“1.  Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves. You don’t see
mentally strong people feeling sorry for their circumstances or
dwelling on the way they’ve been mistreated.

They have learned to take responsibility for their actions and
outcomes, and they have an inherent understanding of the fact
that frequently life is not fair. They are able to emerge from
trying circumstances with self-awareness and gratitude for
the lessons learned.

When a situation turns out badly, they respond with phrases such
as “Oh, well.” Or perhaps simply, “Next!”

2.  Give Away Their Power. Mentally strong people avoid giving
others the power to make them feel inferior or bad.

They understand they are in control of their actions and emotions.
They know their strength is in their ability to manage the way they

3.  Shy Away from Change. Mentally strong people embrace
change and they welcome challenge.

Their biggest “fear,” if they have one, is not of the unknown,
but of becoming complacent and stagnant. An environment of
change and even uncertainty can energize a mentally strong
person and bring out their best.

4.  Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control. Mentally
strong people don’t complain (much) about bad traffic, lost luggage,
or especially about other people, as they recognize that all of these
factors are generally beyond their control.

In a bad situation, they recognize that the one thing they can always
control is their own response and attitude, and they use these attributes

5. Worry About Pleasing Others. Know any people pleasers?

Or, conversely, people who go out of their way to dis-please others
as a way of reinforcing an image of strength?

Neither position is a good one.

A mentally strong person strives to be kind and fair and to
please others where appropriate, but is unafraid to speak up.
They are able to withstand the possibility that someone will
get upset and will navigate the situation, wherever possible,
with grace.

6.  Fear Taking Calculated Risks. A mentally strong person is
willing to take calculated risks.

This is a different thing entirely than jumping headlong into
foolish risks. But with mental strength, an individual can weigh
the risks and benefits thoroughly, and will fully assess the potential
downsides and even the worst-case scenarios before they take

7.  Dwell on the Past. There is strength in acknowledging the
past and especially in acknowledging the things learned from
past experiences—but a mentally strong person is able to avoid
miring their mental energy in past disappointments or in fantasies
of the “glory days” gone by.

They invest the majority of their energy in creating an optimal
present and future.

8.  Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over. We all know the
definition of insanity, right?

It’s when we take the same actions again and again while hoping
for a different and better outcome than we’ve gotten before.

A mentally strong person accepts full responsibility for past
behavior and is willing to learn from mistakes. Research shows
that the ability to be self-reflective in an accurate and productive
way is one of the greatest strengths of spectacularly successful
executives and entrepreneurs.

9.  Resent Other People’s Success. It takes strength of character
to feel genuine joy and excitement for other people’s success.

Mentally strong people have this ability. They don’t become
jealous or resentful when others succeed (although they may
take close notes on what the individual did well).

They are willing to work hard for their own chances at success,
without relying on shortcuts.

10.  Give Up After Failure. Every failure is a chance to improve.

Even the greatest entrepreneurs are willing to admit that their early
efforts invariably brought many failures.

Mentally strong people are willing to fail again and again, if
necessary, as long as the learning experience from every “failure”
can bring them closer to their ultimate goals.

11.  Fear Alone Time. Mentally strong people enjoy and even
treasure the time they spend alone.

They use their downtime to reflect, to plan, and to be productive.

Most importantly, they don’t depend on others to shore up their
happiness and moods. They can be happy with others, and they
can also be happy alone.

12.  Feel the World Owes Them Anything. Particularly in the
current economy, executives and employees at every level are
gaining the realization that the world does not owe them a salary,
a benefits package and a comfortable life, regardless of their
preparation and schooling.

Mentally strong people enter the world prepared to work and
succeed on their merits, at every stage of the game.

13.  Expect Immediate Results. Whether it’s a workout plan, a
nutritional regimen, or starting a business, mentally strong people
are “in it for the long haul”.

They know better than to expect immediate results.

They apply their energy and time in measured doses and they
celebrate each milestone and increment of success on the way.

They have “staying power.”

And they understand that genuine changes take time.” 

Great article, huh?

I’m betting you might’ve read through it and found that you
might’ve been indulging in one or two of those.

It’s okay, no one’s judging your for it.

A little honest self-assessment is always a good thing
if and when we decide that we want to make positive
changes based on that assessment.

Know what I mean?

The Truth is, we ALL could be Mentally Tougher.

So how do we go about doing that?

How do we go about making the leap from the person
we are now to the Mentally Tough person we know
that deep down inside we not only could be –

But long to be?


Model those who are already Mentally Tough.

Like Mike Gillette.

This Guinness Book of World Record Holder, Professional
Strongman, and Executive Bodyguard to Billionaires and
Movie Stars (like Sylvester Stallone) has put together a
step-by-step blueprint so you can –

+  Rapidly develop mental toughness
+  Identify hidden fears holding you back
+  Suppress limiting beliefs sabotaging your success

It’s called “Psychology of Strength.”

And let me shoot you straight – because I have gone through
this program –

If you have goals you haven’t yet reached –

Especially ones that you feel like you’ve been chasing

You NEED this program.

That is, unless you like that dis-empowered floundering
feeling that leaves your gut all bunched up, wakes you
up in the middle of the night and makes it hard to look at
yourself in the mirror.

Get “Psychology of Strength” here.

Talk soon.


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