Do you ever get angry?
You know, for no particular reason?
Say your wife or significant other asks you do something and for no good reason your temper flares?
Then you think to yourself, “Where in the world did THAT come from?”
Yeah, me too.
(Although certainly less now in my 40s than in my 30s and way less than I did in my 20s.)
Apparently, according to psychologists (or is that psychiatrists – maybe both?) anger like that comes from feeling out of control.
… Or like you don’t have control over parts of your life.
When I heard that, I thought to myself –
“OK, what CAN I control?”
Here’s what I came up with – See if you agree:
I’ve always been fascinated with this quote by Chuck Swindoll:
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company…a church….a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past…we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you…we are in charge of our attitudes.”
What more can I say to add to that?
2. Food consumption
I eat A LOT.
As in, a large quantity.
Because I like to.
And – I NEED to.
I’m pretty active.
I do something every day.
I train at least 5 days a week most weeks. And the days I don’t do something specific, I’ll go out for about an hour walk.
I rarely eat junk food – maybe once per week.
Because I don’t want to.
Because I feel like crap when I do.
And I don’t like feeling like crap.
And, I don’t like looking like crap either.
So, I eat “healthy” – lean meat, some fruit, occasional green veggies, lots of coconut oil, eggs, a greens supplement, and potatoes or rice.
No one “forces” me to eat what I don’t want to.
And food is not my “friend.”
I don’t turn to it when I’m sad… angry… frustrated… or when I feel any other emotion.
Words of wisdom there.
I usually get 7 to 7.5 hours of sleep per night.
I get up between 5 and 6am and go to bed between 930 and 1030pm.
I actually prefer getting up at 5.
It allows me “quiet time” – time by myself to reflect, project, pray, think, etc… And it allows me to prepare for my day.
I don’t watch TV at night. And occasionally I’ll read.
(Right now I’m reading through “The Chronicles of Narnia” because we’re reading it as a family and I’ve never read it before.)
Like I said, I’m in control of my food and when I eat it (except dinner – that floats between 530 and 7pm depending on the kids schedules).
I also have a very structured schedule.
Right now I’m in business school from 8 to Noon and I travel about an hour on each side of that.
So I’m “at school” from 7am to 1pm.
Then I come home and eat lunch and then go to work.
Like I said – 5 to 6 days a week starting somewhere between 4 and 5pm.
Then it’s dinner.
Then family time.
Then bedtime for the kids.
Then wife time.
Then maybe some more work.
Then bed time.
For many – if not most people, this is a “chore.”
I enjoy it.
Because it’s a stress-reliever.
I’m built to move.
And, I like to be strong.
It’s in my DNA.
I couldn’t just turn into a lump on the couch.
It would literally kill me.
(As it is most people.)
And – I like the challenge of improving myself physically –
Of being capable of doing more and more and more.
I find it compounds itself.
The more I do, the more I can do and the more I want to do.
(Plus, the more I can eat.)
Speaking of things –
Here’s the thing I’ve learned about CONTROL and I don’t know if you agree or not –
The more disciplined and structured I am, the more control I have.
And here’s the really interesting part –
The more control I have, the more freedom I experience.
I can do more things with less worry.
And then that whole anger thing?
Yeah, it doesn’t really show up that much when I’m in control.
So what do you think?
Did I miss anything?
If not, I hope that helps you out.
In the meantime, I challenge you to make your own list.
P.S. Control over you exercise – your KB workouts – is really about Commitment and Consistency.
In fact, the two feed off each other.
If you’re struggling with either one or both, this will definitely help you [re-]gain control.