Having a 4 year old is tough.
Especially when he’s stubborn and hyper-intelligent.
Talking with my son and directing his behavior is often
times like playing chess – I have to anticipate his responses
in advance because he’s into “gamesmanship” –
He’s always trying to do the next thing…
One of the things we do to help correct his behavior is
to give him choices – to teach him how to make good
We clearly outline what we expect him to do then state
what the consequences will be for not doing what he’s
The “correction” more often than not for his disobedience
is removal from our presence by putting him in his room
or, removing whatever he’s playing with, or holds dear
at that moment, like a stuffed animal.
Last night the proverbial light bulb went off.
After correcting his behavior, and lying in bed with him
for bedtime, I asked him who’s fault it was that he had
to be corrected.
“Mine,” he said, pointing to himself.
Proudest moment of parenthood yet.
He’s learning to be responsible.
Funny how this concept is lost on many of us adults.
Especially in modern America where we’ve succumbed
to “victimhood” – where any sort of negatively perceived
experience is someone else’s fault.
Take being out of shape and overweight.
I can’t even think of any good excuses someone might
have, but obviously most Americans can since the
“average” American is overweight.
Two-thirds to be exact.
That’s smack dab right in the middle of the bell curve.
If you’re feeling condemned or guilty or have that
creeping heat up the back of your neck right now
reading this –
Those feelings demand a decision.
You can either keep going and end up with more of
the same –
More of what you currently have –
Or you can do the opposite.
Admit to yourself that you have made and are currently
making choices to keep yourself where you are.
Of course, if you’re making the kind of progress you
expected, feel free to check out right now.
If not, you might want to read the rest of this email.
Here’s your ticket out:
Do what I do and what my son did.
Admit to yourself that ultimately, “It’s my fault.”
Harry Truman, 33rd President of the United States, and
the man who ultimately ended World War II with the
dropping of the Atomic Bombs on Japan, had a plaque
on his desk that said, “The Buck Stops Here.”
In other words, stop “passing the buck” or playing the
When you do, you’ll experience an amazing amount of
You’ll no longer fall prey to the whims and desires of
And you’ll be able to do your own thing, truly free to make
your own choices.
It’s no longer your spouse’s fault that you raided the pantry
late at night for cookies – because, after all, if he didn’t
keep them in the house you wouldn’t eat them…
And it’s no longer your bosses fault you drank that 6-pack
to help you “relax.”
See what I’m saying.
YOU now have CHOICES.
No one has to MAKE you do something.
And now YOU’RE FREE to apply those choices to your
You’ll no longer be swayed by what others are doing or not
doing as the case may be.
You’re free to do what’s proven and effective.
1. Eat whole foods like meat, fruit, vegetables, and the
occasional starch after your workouts.
2. Train for strength because it’s the foundation for everything
else – including and especially fat loss.
3. Once you’re past the beginner stage with your KB training,
double KB training is your ticket to fast and effective results.
“It’s my fault” are three of the most liberating words ever
strung together in a sentence.
When embraced, what you’re really saying “It’s MY life.”